What is a Bear and where do I fit in?
Contrary to what some people believe, all gay or bi men aren't the same. We don't all enjoy Broadway musicals, dress up in the latest fashions, or walk with too much honey on our hips. Not every single gay or bi man turns his nose up in disgust at sporting events, outdoor activities, or manual labor. The gay and bi male culture is actually a cornucopia of men with different tastes, interests,body types and levels of commitment to partners and spouses
Definition of Bear: Men in the gay community who have hairy bodies and facial hair. Many are stocky and/or muscular (generally larger in mass than any other classification of gay men in the community). They often portray themselves as the epitome of masculinity through their rugged appearance and demeanor.
Characteristics of a Bear: Typically, Bears are friendly, polite, and easy-going, a far cry from their animal namesake. Their larger body types contain some of the kindest hearts. If a bear were to accidentally step on you at a bar, he would be the first one to apologize and feel awful for potentially hurting you. However, just like their namesakes, a bear is a dangerous gay when provoked and prodded with a stick (no pun intended). Their size alone would be enough to take down an entire gaggle of gays. But unlike real bears, these Bears travel in packs. When you take on one Bear, the entire cave is threatened.
What Does a Bear Do in the Woods?: While Bears have a wide range of interests, they are some natural proclivities of the subculture that seem pretty standard. Most Bears enjoy food and drink. Beer is the alcohol of choice. Rarely, do you see a Bear sipping a Cosmo or calling himself a Vegan. They indulge in the simpler pleasure of life such as camping, laying in the sun, or communing with other Bears.
Bear Wear: Bears can often be spotted in the wild wearing open flannel shirts exposing their guts and hirsute bodies, combat boots, and baseball caps. They are not slaves to fashion. This is not to say that Bears don't play dress up. (They are gay after all!) But they are more at home wearing lose fit, extremely casual clothing.
Bear Subcategories: The term Bear doesn't apply to every single hairy gay man. In fact, within the Bear subculture you will find an entire slew of different classifications:
•Berenstien Bear is a bear of Jewish descent
•Black Bear is a bear of African-American descent.
•Brown Bear is a bear of Latin descent.
•Care Bear is a bear who "cares" about his appearance and cares about fashion
•Chubby Bear is a bear who is heavy set and hairy.
•Cub is a term used to describe a bear relatively younger in age. The term is also affectionally used to describe a bear's
• husband/partner who fulfills the passive role in the sexual relationship.
•Daddy Bear describes a mature bear, who is often looking for a Cub (or younger man) for a relationship.
•Grizzly Bear means that the individual is extremely dominant and typically extremely tall, heavy, or hairy.
•Honey Badger describes a bear, who is blond and is usually muscular and not heavy.
•Koala Bear is a bear of Australian descent.
•Otter describes a man who is hairy but not heavy. An otter's build is leaner and muscular.
•Otter Cub describes a younger man who is heavy but not hairy. His build is also leaner and muscular
•Panda Bear denotes a bear of Asian descent.
•Papa Bear describes a bear who has children and devotes most of the time he used to spend drinking and clubbing to his children.
•Pocket Bear describes a bear of short stature.
•Polar Bear is a bear with white or grey hair.
•Seal Bear is a mostly hairless, heavier man. He's a seal because his body is slick like a seal.
•Shape Shifting Bear is a bear that moves, at various times of his life, through different subcategories. He can go from a Chub Bear to an Otter to a Wolf.
•Silver Fox describes a distinguished gentleman with salt and pepper hair.
•Silver Otter describes a man who is hairy (not heavy), but whose hair is overall white
•Wolf is a term for a bear who is rugged and outdoorsy but typically also a biker. A wolf can also be sexually aggressive.
•Yogi Bear describes a bear who likes camping and hiking but also enjoys laying around the cave playing video games.
Chaser: (aka, Chubby Chaser): This is pretty self-explanatory, but it refers to someone who typically isn't heavy but who likes to date larger people. This isn't a strictly gay term either.
Bear Admirers: Those who are attracted to bears or hang out with them also have their own set of descriptions.
Chaser describes a man who is sexually attracted to heavy set gay men.
Goldilocks: is usually a woman who hangs out with a group of bears. This is the Bear culture's term for their "fag hag."
The gay bear community is a friendly welcoming environment with lots of different guys who understand awkwardness and the struggle to fit in. In general, bears are likely to welcome any new person into the fold because bears love "fresh meat".
Jacob Z Flores, 4-18-2015(www.jacobzflores.com)
Jacob Z Flores, 4-18-2015(www.jacobzflores.com)
